Saturday, April 12, 2008

The Breakup Songs : Chorus

Yes, be aware that these are only MY words, from MY point of view, and I am a MALE human. Perhaps, I'm in the wrong. Well..I don't give a damn anyway :p Girls, if you don't like what I'm about to say, skip this entry. But I think this piece is good for you. So you better read it. Huhu.

Some advices.

  • Girls, be confident with yourself. You're great, always great. He's in love with you~ Don't give a damn about those prickly little voices in your head. You're wonderful to him. He sincerely loves you! Don't doubt yourself. But of course, if you love him as much, improve yourself bit by bit. No rush ;) Try not to degrade though :p
  • Girls, sulking is good. Big sulk once in a while is great. But big sulk once a month? That's pretty tiring. Once a week...Err..are you a black widow? Or do you want to be a widow? You'll kill him!~
  • Girls, I know you're in love. A love soo deep you can't even see the bottom. But you don't have to text him every minute and call him everyday. There's a possibility that he would pity you, and then he'd be the one calling you instead (T_T) Lagi haru kalau tiap-tiap hari dating~ If he's filthy rich, don't give a damn lah~ huhu.
  • Girls, trust him (Unless...he's a playboy :p). Love is a subtle thing, it's a conscience. Trust that he loves you, even when he's far away, even when you're not in touch for a month. Have a little jealousy. But mind you, ONLY A LITTLE. Never lose your self-confidence. And guys, trust her as much.
  • Girls, never interfere with his business. I mean, real business, money-related business. Unless if you're really good at it lah. Especially when you include emotions and feelings in his business. Do you think he's heartless? Shame on you.
  • Girls, be the great woman behind the great man. Even better, be the great woman beside the great man. Yes, you are the other half of him. You're suppose to make him complete, so that he can be a better person, a great person. Take him to the top, not drag him down to the bottom of the sea~ Same goes to the guys, be the great man of your wonderful woman ;)
  • Girls, never try to test him. Never try to test him in the name of love. He usually knows it when you're testing him. Sometimes, he plays according to your rule. You happy. But keep in mind that he can always deliberately turns the tables around. End result? You not happy, huhu. Right back at you. Padan muka nak test sangat~ But seriously, don't test your partner. Hina dan keji.
  • Girls, never ever make him do something in the name of love. If it's only for jokes or simply for fun, that's ok. But if it's for something serious, that's very low~it's like you're selling your love, girl. Again, hina dan keji.
  • Girls, you're not the only one with problems, sadness, headache, heartache or whatever. He has feelings too. He needs to lean on to you as well. He needs to rest on your shoulder once in a while, and cry in your chest if he has to, embraced by your soft arms. Well, not as often as you girls do :p Still, consider that, k.
  • Girls, take good care of yourself. Take good care of yourself. Take good care of yourself. Take good care of yourself. Take good care of yourself. You're living in a big bad world. Please, take good care of yourself.
  • And Girls, as Che'Nelle (was it her?) said in Hitz.fm, I didn't remember the exact thing she said, but it's about being happy with yourself. Don't be sad and expect your other half to come and make you happy. Be happy, and when he comes into your life, he will add more happiness into your life. Double happy (^_^)

What I said above doesn't work for a jerk. A stupid jerk simply deserves a kick in the balls. Leave him! You deserve a better guy! That's all I have for now. Girls, no grudge on me, k. Peace (^_^)v Oh, anybody wanna add some more? Be my guest!

13 comments:

moon said...

suke aa entry luppi ni. len kali wat aa lg entry yg lebih kurang entry cenggini. aku memang wanita yg hebat beside a great man. haha

Anonymous said...

one hell of entry of advices..

girls, take notes!

pape pun pi, i always support mung!!

NeemoNeemo™ said...

Luppi, neem mintak maaf.

entri ni memang bagus. tapi, ini tidak valid untuk woman with anxiety disorder, history of depression, abusive family etc.

Maaf, bukan nak berlagak tapi neem studi psikologi. So, apa2 pun fikiran neem tertumpu ke arah psychological disorder ini yg mengakibatkan kemerosotan self-esteem.

Dan jangan lupa, wanita kekurangan hormon endorfin.

lutfi lukman said...

**moon**
lenkali? haha. aku bukan Dr. Love la. Dan ini bukan blog cintan cintun~ huhu. Simply wanna share some opinions. Glad u like it ;)

**atrash**
yeah, girls, u heard this guy, take note! huhu

**neem**
neem, no need to apologize ;) bagi saya, entri ini patut dijadikan syllabus kpd wanita2 tersebut. Wanita2 yang mempunyai kepincangan psikologi ini lebih layak membaca entri ini dan jadikannya sbg panduan alternatif. Oh, adakah itu keterlaluan? :p Kekurangan hormon endorfin setiap bulan tidak sepatutnya dijadikan alasan. Pokok utamanyanya adalah kepercayaan. Tidakkah begitu?

NeemoNeemo™ said...

Endorfin itu bukan alasan, itu fakta berasaskan sains. dan paras endorfin tidak berkurang setiap bulan.
Here's something from my thesis;

People with PMDD etc won't benefit from showing how much you DON'T understand them. It's a disease.Ilness. Like diabetes.Like AIDS.

"Tell your friends: depression is not a moral weakness, nor mental sloth, but a true brain disease that can be successfully treated."
-Dr Edwin H. Cassem

Do you tell a diabetes patient to 'get over it. Jangan sakit boleh tak? Asyik sakit je..'

Well, what do u understand about 'perempuan ibarat tulang rusuk yang bengkok...'?

Anonymous said...

i love this post. its so true, coming from a sincere person. :)

however, in terms of psikologi, well...do watch oprah. a lotta people wit depression n such comes to her shows as guests. and they all talk about how to cope n such. n all of their solutions are simply related to lutfi's post. yep, its true that u cant tell people wit disbetes:

"get over it. Jangan sakit boleh tak? Asyik sakit je.."

so, as a conclusion, wat lutfi wrote is sumting for all of us to reflect and think about. evrything takes tyme. to heal a dpression, take a heck alotta tyme; its a process of life. so this post is a mere guidance for all of us to think and reflect and think back of all the consequences that our lives bring us.

anyway. im a no psikologi stdnt. i tink i watched too much oprah. LOL! :P

-kema-

lutfi lukman said...

**neem**
In this entry, I tried to give them insights, for them to realize a few things. I didn't simply tell em to 'jangan sakit'~ Besides, how can women increase their endorphin level if they are continuously sadden by what they do wrong over and over again?
Ok, then. Indulge me. Provide me with some understanding. Even I don't want em to keep spoiling their lives like that. Tell me, tell us all, how can we treat this true brain disease? ;)

perempuan ibarat tulang rusuk yg bengkok?

**kema**
THANK YOU. Like u said, this is an entry for reflection. If they don't know what's happening, and what the consequences may be, how can they do things in a better way and avoid the worst?
How does a psychiatrist heal a mentally sick person? Isn't it mostly through words, listening, guiding and giving understanding?
p/s: I like Oprah too. Keep watching ;)

Anonymous said...

Luppi I love you so much for these tips LOL. It's nice to be reminded again :D

And oh, I don't mind lending my shoulders. Anytime XD

:: !zyan :: said...

hi luppi..i used to be silent reader here..eheh.

what a good entry! Tho i disagree with certain points. Sbb ego? ye kot..ahaha.

so, what's up? watpe skrg ni?

-kak izyan::x-CTS::class of 2007::

lutfi lukman said...

**juhjuh**
yepyep, I'm such a lovable creature. Huhu :p Aja aja fighting, jaja!
It's gud to know someone is willing to lend their shoulders (^_^) I might be needing em someday ;)

**!zyan**
Hi, kak izyan~ huhu, thanks for reading, and thanks a lot for the comment. Very much appreciated! (^_^) Ego berpada-pada ek :p
Kat UIA lagi, jadi RA till July, sementara tunggu reply utk fellowship.

:: !zyan :: said...

oho...ok bro.
All d best then.

roslini ashari said...

baru nak stat baca. love dis entry. good advices. betul kata muni, kena selalu buat entry macam ni. not a Dr. Love thingy but it's just that sometimes, girls really need to be reminded. directly or indirectly. aja2! =)

Anonymous said...

wahh...bdk besar...gud entry...can be my reference in da future..

i cannot lend u my shoulder lor...coz my shoulder is too small..so,i just can lend u my tissue la..i have a lot of them...hahaha...